Do you stay home or work outside the home?
I wasn't entirely sure of what to write about today until I started messaging with a girlfriend of mine on facebook. We've been friends since the ninth grade and she has two kids as well. She's considering going back to work for a number of reasons - a bunch of the usual - and asked what I planned to do when the kids got older.
I'm not sure. Of course we have a few years until everyone's in school (and I'd love a third child to boot!), but I chew on it sometimes. I always knew I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, but then what? My mother (mostly) stayed home, even after we were all in school. There were four of us, after all, so there was always plenty to do and I remember feeling secretly grateful that she was home, even as I got older. But then of course the reasons for working outside the home are huge too. A second income - not just for the money, but also to alleviate some of your spouse's stress level - and feelings of creativity and accomplishment (that can be hard to find at home) are a few of the many reasons to go back.
I'll try not to get too much on my soapbox, but I do get frustrated that it seems like such a black and white choice: be gone from kids & home all day or be home with kids all day. I'd love to work some from home, trade childcare with friends and family - a more integrated approach, maybe?
What'd you think? If you stay home, do you plan to go back to work one day (outside work!)? If you work, do you ever feel compelled to quit & stay home (if financially possible)? Tricky, huh?